One of the best things I did this year was start seeing a therapist. It was something I’d tried in the past, with little success.
One of my friends suggested this guy, and I couldn’t be happier. He started the sessions by saying that the client/therapist relationship is unique because it’s based completely upon honesty, only works when the client is completely honest, and its intent is simply to improve the client’s life. Having someone listen to you, categorize your thoughts in a way you cannot, and give you practical advice is a thing I’d suggest to everyone. Some people see it as ‘weak’, but they couldn’t be more wrong.
I’ve been more honest this year than I have in my entire life, having conversations I’d put off for years.
It is very hard for me to say what I want, but I’ve begun to say this directly, and it has positive effects.
Being a dad. This has been a whole lot cooler than I ever would have thought. My little son has opened my heart to a lot of things in life. HIs smile, laugh, and the way he interacts with people is inspiring.
This is the first year I’ve viewed myself as a Creative. I know, beyond a doubt, that I must create to be happy. To feel fulfilled. I’ve built a schedule around that, and worked to make it happen.
I’ve improved in technology. This website, and other mediums, were a challenge for me, but I’ve taken the time to learn.
I often bite off more than I can chew. So I’ll make these lofty goals - so lofty that I don’t complete them. Like, I’ll say I’m going to do something every day, start strong, and then stop completely, rather than making manageable goals.
Or, more often it works like this: I have 7 things I want to do, so do a very lit bit on 4 of the 7 instead of doing a lot on one. The cumulative effect is nothing gets done. I’d be much better suited to focus on 1 or 2.
I carry WAY too many things around with me, which makes me less productive. I’d be way better suited to carry fewer things and focus upon them. (It’s crazy how much time can pass.)
My priorities are often set incorrectly: I’ll give my energy and attention to menial tasks, taking me away from my passions. I could switch this around, doing the menial things when I have - and need - less energy.
I set unrealistic goals.